6 Expert Tips to Keep Your Kids Water Safe

Kids on beach

Even though much of the weather in April has seemed more like winter, before long the calendar will turn to May. That means summer is coming! With Memorial Day weekend right around the corner,  if you haven’t started seriously thinking about ways to keep your kids water safe, then it is time to do so. As a mom of two young children who spend as many days as possible on the beach, I can speak from experience when I say setting up my kids with the right tools for water safety is always at the top of my mind. 

Girl on Beach

Different Types of Swim Lessons

Both of my girls—ages 2.5 and almost 6—have done different kinds of swim lessons through the years. We’ve done lessons during the summer in the ocean and during the winter at various YMCAs and other indoor locations. With that said, we took very different approaches with swim lessons for each daughter. I don’t think either approach has been better than the other. Both of my daughters love the water and are learning the skills they need to be safe and confident when swimming, whether in the ocean or a pool.

child at swim class

With my oldest, Charlotte, we went the more traditional route of swim classes at a variety of places, including lessons in the ocean through the Barnstable Recreation Department at Kalmus Beach. Charlotte always enjoys being in the water and is turning into quite the little swimmer. She also has received terrific swim lessons during the off-season at Vanderbilt Club in Norwood. It has been remarkable watching how much she improves with each passing month as she gets more comfortable in and around the water.

Having one child means undivided attention at all times. When I had my second daughter, it became clear that everything would change. That’s why I decided I wanted Addison to do a more survival-focused swimming class. As such, she has done Powers Aquatics since she was about six months old.

Baby underwater

If you’re not familiar with Powers Aquatics, it’s a safety-focused program that teaches kids how to self-rescue. Starting at the first lesson, babies are swimming underwater and learning how to swim on their own. Now that she is 2.5, Addison can swim underwater at distances of more than six feet and can roll to her back and float.

6 Expert Tips to Keep Your Kids Water Safe

Baby underwater

I recently spoke with the owner of Powers Aquatics, Kristen Seaton, who is extraordinarily devoted to teaching both parents and children about safe swimming. Kristen provided me with the following tips that will hopefully help you to keep your kids safe around the water this summer.

  1. Get in the water with your kids! So many times I see young kids in flotation devices in the pool without an adult in the water with them. Parents are now relying on that flotation device to save their child. They are often distracted and not truly watching their kids.
  1. Ditch the flotation devices! We say this constantly—do not put your child in a flotation device in the pool. This puts them in a vertical position in the water which is also the same as drowning position. Kids develop muscle memory pretty quickly. Using a flotation device is actually a huge detriment to teaching them how to properly swim. It also develops a false sense of confidence in them. We have heard countless stories from parents who have lost children to drowning. They say that: 1) their child drowned during non-swim times, and 2) their child was wearing a flotation device prior to drowning.
  1. Enroll your child in swim lessons that do not utilize flotation devices and that focus on self-rescue. Swim lessons CAN be fun, but the focus should be on teaching them a life-saving skill.
  2. Appoint a watch-watcher! This is someone who has the sole purpose of watching the people in the water. They should be free from distraction.
  3. Develop layers of safety around water and teach them to your children. Layers of safety include fences around bodies of water, swim lessons, permission to enter into any body of water, and what it looks like to be safe in the water. 
  4. Keep your pool clear of pool toys!  We do not allow any rafts, tubes, etc. in our pool because it is hard to see under them. Kids easily fall off of them and it is very difficult to get back on. Balls, dive toys, etc. should be removed from the pool after each use.

From my firsthand experience with Kirsten’s program at Powers Aquatics, the bottom line is the importance of ensuring your kids are equipped with the safety tools they need to succeed in and around the water. Between lessons, boundaries, and being present, you have the power to create a safe swim experience for your children.

Do you have a favorite swim program on Cape Cod? If so, we’d love to hear from you! You can tag us at @CapeCodMoms or @Snfenlon.

Navigating the Aftereffects of Sexual Assault

woman holding teal ribbon, navigating aftereffects of sexual assault

Navigating the aftereffects of sexual assault can be a real challenge. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Moms, if you have had this experience, you may want to share this post with your partner.

Sexual assault is one of the most personal offenses to a person’s being, and has made a mark on every generation. It wasn’t until the 1940s and 50s during the civil rights era that activists began to talk about it. The 1970s brought greater awareness and support for survivors, with the first rape crisis center opening in 1971. (For more on the history of Sexual Assault Awareness Month, click here.) Despite the valiant efforts of many, we have not seen a decline in sexual assault in the last 20+ years. The teal ribbon (est. 2000) stands for awareness and prevention, and the color is associated with trust, devotion, and healing.

While statistics show that females are sexually assaulted at a much higher rate than males, keep in mind that males are less likely to report but suffer just as significantly as females. If not addressed, these emotional and sometimes physical injuries can show up in the lives of committed, loving couples. The aftereffects of sexual assault can last for years or even a lifetime without support and healing. So as not to trigger readers, you can follow this link to see the list of possible consequences of this kind of abuse.

What if you or your partner is a survivor of a sexual assault?

It is highly likely that someone who was sexually assaulted will have challenges with intimacy. Signs and symptoms may not be apparent at first, but may surface over time, or suddenly and unexpectedly. Even if the person had counseling, there can still be triggers and further need for support. If the experience(s) have been pushed down or repressed, emotions could come as a surprise to both of you.

If you are the survivor, be gentle with yourself. Share what you feel you can with your partner and seek support. It is important that you work together because intimacy and sex are a couples issue. So much healing and restoration can come from a healthy intimate relationship.

Be Gentle

If you are the partner, be gentle with yourself and your partner. Seek support. Even the most loving and caring husband can feel intimidated by this topic.

Be An Excellent Listener

Thank her (or him) for being open with you, even if they have just told you a small part of their experience or feelings. Your support will help them open up more.

Stay Calm

It’s natural to feel angry about what your partner has experienced, but anger is unlikely to help her open up to you and more likely to cause her to guard what she tells you.

Be Present and Available

Let her know you are there for her, whenever she wants to talk.

Stay Closely Connected During Intimacy

Even the kindest of lovers can get caught up in their own experience and lose track of their partner’s experience during lovemaking.

Communicate

Keep in mind that love, support, and open communication will build a bridge to a healthy sex life over time (with help, when needed). For a sexual assault survivor, it is important to remember that sex was used as a weapon, but sex is not the enemy; the person who used it against you is the enemy. It can be really hard to separate the sex you have with someone you love from the sex that was used against you, because it all happened in your body.

What if you are currently in a relationship where you feel sex is being weaponized against you?

Please seek support. No one deserves to be misused or abused. Speak to your primary care doctor, OB-GYN, or call the hotlines below to find a qualified professional who can help you find safety and/or services to begin to work through the issues you are having:
National Sexual Assault Hotline
Independence House
To connect with Tracy, click here.

Even though navigating the aftereffects of sexual assault is difficult, recovery and healing are possible. Please share this article or these ideas with anyone you know who would benefit from them.

Library Story Times on Cape Cod

This guest post compilation of library story times on Cape Cod was written and submitted by Veronica Hernandez Brown. We are grateful for her contribution!

girl in dr. suess hat and socks reading dr. suess books, story times on cape cod

Before my daughter started preschool, we often visited our local libraries together. Not only did we usually have a great time, but I often felt that we both gained so much from it. For her, it was getting to practice her verbal, motor, and social skills. For me, it was a chance to get out of the house with my tiny human and practice my “new mom” role in a safe and welcoming space. As a librarian myself, I truly believe that bringing your kids to the library starting at a young age can have an immense positive impact on their lives.

Regardless of where you live on Cape Cod, chances are there’s a library near you. That means you have access to endless free resources and materials for both you and your family. If you have small children at home, one of the best things your local library has to offer is Story Time. Going to the library for Story Time exposes your little ones to new experiences, helps them develop their early literacy skills, fosters their love of books and learning, and provides them with the opportunity to interact with other children. It also gives you a chance to meet other parents and caregivers and build community.

I started my own Story Time at South Dennis Library a few years ago. I love to see the room filled with all different families. Whether the kids end up singing along with me or completely ignore me in favor of playing with a cool toy, I look forward to it every week. Here is a list of weekly library Story Times on Cape Cod that are free to join and do not require you to register in advance:

Upper Cape

  • Music and Movement at Cotuit Library (ages 0-5): Mondays at 10 a.m.
  • Mother Goose on the Loose at West Falmouth Library (ages 0-3): Tuesdays at 10 a.m.
  • Storytime at Cotuit Library (ages 0-5): Tuesdays at 10 a.m.
  • Story Boat at West Falmouth Library (ages 3-5): Tuesdays at 11:15 a.m.
  • Storytime and Songs at Falmouth Library (all ages): Thursdays at 10:30 a.m.

Midcape

  • Indoor Story Time at Centerville Library: Mondays at 11 a.m.
  • Fresh Air Story Time at Centerville Library: Thursdays at 11 a.m.
  • Storytime at Sturgis Library (Barnstable) (ages 2-4): Wednesdays at 10:30 a.m.
  • Storytime at Whelden Memorial Library (West Barnstable) (ages 0-5): Thursdays at 11 a.m.
  • Storytime at Hyannis Library (ages 2-5): Fridays at 11 a.m.
  • Storytime at Yarmouth Port Library (ages 2-5): Thursdays at 11 a.m.
  • Adventures in Storytime at South Yarmouth Library (ages 0-5): Tuesdays at 10:30 a.m.
  • Music and Movement Story Time at South Dennis Library (ages 0-5): Wednesdays at 10 a.m.
  • Preschool Storytime at West Dennis Library (ages 2-4): Wednesdays at 10:30 a.m.
  • Play, Storytime, and Craft at Dennis Public Library (ages 0-5): Thursdays at 10:30 a.m.

Lower Cape

  • Story Time with Miss Michelle! at Brewster Ladies’ Library (ages 0-6): Wednesdays at 10:30 a.m.
  • Baby Story Time with Miss Michelle! at Brewster Ladies’ Library (ages 0-2): Thursdays at 10:30 a.m.
  • Tuesday Story Time at Brooks Free Library (Harwich) (ages 0-5): Tuesdays at 10:30 a.m.
  • Outdoor Story Time at Brooks Free Library (Harwich) (ages 0-5): Thursdays at 10:30 a.m.
  • Storytime at Snow Library (Orleans): Thursdays at 10:30 a.m.

Outer Cape

  • Storytime at Truro Library (ages 0-5): Wednesdays at 10:30 a.m. (starts May 1st)
  • Preschool Story Time at Eastham Library (ages 2-5): Thursdays at 10:30 a.m.

The Islands

  • Baby and Toddler Storytime at Oak Bluffs Library: Wednesdays at 10:15 a.m.
  • Stuffed Animal Storytime at Oak Bluffs Library (ages 1.5-5) – Saturdays at 10:15 a.m.
  • Traditional Storytime at West Tisbury Library (ages 0-5): Wednesdays at 10:30 a.m.
  • Wiggle with the Words at Edgartown Library (ages 1-5): Thursdays at 10:30 a.m.
  • Saturday Storytime with Weezie at Vineyard Haven Library (ages 3-5): Saturdays at 10:30 a.m.
  • Toddler Storytime at Chilmark Library: Fridays at 11:30 a.m.
  • Storytime at Chilmark Library (ages 3-6): Saturdays at 11 a.m.

Come enjoy one (or more!) of the many library story times on Cape Cod with your child!

ABOUT OUR GUEST AUTHOR:

Veronica is originally from Venezuela but has been a Cape Cod resident since 2000. She spent several years in Provincetown, where her family owned a restaurant. She has a background in music and attended Berklee College of Music for three semesters before completing her English Degree at UMASS Amherst. She is currently the Library Director at the small but charming South Dennis Library where she uses her artistic talents to create fun programs for both children and adults. She and her husband live in Dennis and are raising a kind, smart, and energetic 3-year-old girl. The three of them love to read, cook, and spend time together outside where they just recently picked up Birding as a hobby.

A Walk for All Ages at Sylvan Gardens in Chatham

daffodils in a field, sylvan gardens chatham

I married into a large family, and when we gather it’s usually at my in-laws’ home in Harwich. We’re always looking for walks to go on as a family. We have two grandparents, two aunts, two uncles, my husband and I, our two kids (ages 6 and 1), and occasionally, a dog. Last month, all of us (including the dog!) went for a nice walk for all ages at Sylvan Gardens in Chatham.

toddler on the shoulders of her grandfather, sylvan gardens chatham, photo courtesy of Danielle Kempe

About Sylvan Gardens

Sylvan Gardens is one of our favorite spots for a family walk, especially when the daffodils are in bloom. A former nursery, the Sylvan family owned the gardens until 2004, when the Town of Chatham purchased the property. Now, the land is conservation-restricted, which means it can’t be built upon and must remain as the beautiful landscape that it is. Friends of the Sylvan Gardens volunteer to keep the flowers tended and trails cleared.

Daffodils, sylvan gardens chatham, photo courtesy of Danielle Kempe

The trails at Sylvan Gardens

The trails at Sylvan Gardens are short and all under a mile. Sylvan Path is an ADA-compliant compressed stone path that goes from the entrance on Old Main Street to the White Pond and Black Pond Overlook. Parking includes a disabled parking spot and is located at the entrance to Old Main Street. Use “88 Old Main Street Chatham” if you need an address for your GPS.

When we visit, we take the accessible Sylvan Path for 975 feet and add the Black Pond Loop for 1,200 feet. Black Pond Loop is not wheelchair accessible because of the occasional root in the path, but it is still a relatively easy walk. There are always flowers in bloom on the paths and the view of the pond is lovely. Wood benches along the paths are a great place to relax for a moment and enjoy the scenery.

Man and woman sitting on a bench, sylvan gardens chatham, photo provided by Danielle Kempe

My mother-in-law just had knee replacement surgery and needs to walk as part of her recovery, but she still uses a cane. Because of that, we prefer routes that are accessible and flat, and this one is.

Guided walk at Sylvan Gardens

The Friends of Sylvan Gardens will be leading walks through the gardens on Saturday, April 23rd at 11:00 a.m. and 1:00 p.m., and on Sunday, April 24 at 1:00 p.m. Registration is required. You can check their website for details.

Where do you walk?

We’re happy to have found Chatham’s Sylvan Gardens as a great place for a walk for all ages in our family. Another place we like to go for walks is at Mass Audubon’s Wellfleet Bay Wildlife Sanctuary. And here are some good kid-friendly nature walks on the Cape. Where is your favorite family-friendly walk on Cape Cod?

Hope to see you on the trails!

My Motherhood Journey with Audiobooks

Vintage headphones with book

My husband made a joke recently about me being an Uber driver because I had an AirPod in my ear all morning. What he didn’t realize was that I was five hours into a nine-hour audiobook, and I was loving it! I never expected audiobooks to be part of my motherhood journey. But I’m so glad I found them!

Before kids

In my pre-baby life, I was an English teacher. I attended a monthly book club with friends, and I loved visiting local libraries’ Express Read sections. I never made the leap to a Kindle or e-reader as I loved holding physical books in my hands. During Covid, I used my online library account to order books to be picked up outside when we weren’t allowed in. My bridesmaids surprised me by each gifting me a favorite book at my bachelorette party. And there was no question about how I’d decorate my baby’s nursery—a storybook theme, of course! The walls are lined with shelves that hold favorite tales, and the room is complete with a Peter Rabbit crib sheet and a Very Hungry Caterpillar hanging on the wall.

From podcasts to audiobooks

I enjoyed listening to a few different podcasts while completing mundane household tasks for awhile. While walking the dog in the cold, windy Cape air or folding laundry during naptime, I would listen to comedians and parenting gurus talk about a variety of things. But I found myself getting into a rut with podcasts. Then this past January, a friend suggested I listen to the Britney Spears autobiography rather than read it. I downloaded the Audible app and couldn’t believe how easy it was to listen while I was making dinner. My dog and I even found a new trail to explore in the neighborhood when I didn’t want to go back in the house one morning until a chapter was finished. 

I went to the library during February’s school vacation week and slogged through a hardcover book for the next four weeks. It was a book by an author I love, but I only had time to read at 9:00 p.m. I forced myself to get through it and I was proud when I finished. Despite finishing and liking the book, reading at my most tired moments every night felt more like punishment, not enjoyment.

Finding good audiobook apps

On a whim, I recently clicked on the Audible app and found that there was one credit. I wasn’t even sure what one credit meant, but there was a list of books there that were available for one credit. I recognized a few from some reading enthusiasts I follow on social media. My first choice was a mystery thriller. I enjoyed the Serial podcast series many moons ago, which was basically a big mystery story. My leap into audiobooks was now complete.

I’ve since downloaded the Libby app with my CLAMS library account. When I took my son to play in the children’s room at our local library recently, I decided to download a book to listen to. I didn’t even look through the books on display in the lobby! This time I’m going to try a lighter beach read with Cape Cod ties. 

They say motherhood brings the unexpected. My motherhood journey with audiobooks is certainly not one that I expected, but I’m glad I found them!

10 Fun and Meaningful Ways to Celebrate Earth Day with Kids

Kids celebrating after a clean-up along a Cape Cod trail

As a mom, I strive to instill love and respect for the environment in my children. For us, this looks like spending a lot of time outside exploring and enjoying Cape Cod’s beautiful and unique landscape. Weaving these experiences into our days together goes hand-in-hand with teaching my kids valuable lessons to help them grow into good citizens. 

Earth Day, celebrated annually on April 22nd, provides a perfect opportunity to engage with your kids in fun and educational activities centered around helping them understand the importance of nurturing and caring for the earth. Here are ten fun and meaningful ways to celebrate Earth Day with kids:

1. Clean up your neighborhood 

Grab your gloves and trash bags and spend some time picking up litter at a local park, along nearby trails, or at your favorite beach. Now we are to the point that my kids’ eagle eyes spy trash a mile away, so I always carry trash bags and gloves in my hiking backpack. Bonus points: Show your kids the importance of taking care of their community by organizing a neighborhood clean-up event.

2. Go on a nature scavenger hunt

First, create a list of items for the kids to find, such as leaves, rocks, flowers, and animal tracks. Encourage your kids to use their senses to observe and appreciate nature’s beauty. This activity promotes outdoor play and teaches children to be mindful of their surroundings.

3. Grow something

Get your hands dirty and plant something together. This can be as simple as starting seeds in paper cups, creating a mini herb garden indoors, planting a vegetable garden, or planting pollinator-friendly perennials around your yard. Many options can be scaled to fit your level of interest, experience, and budget. 

4. Start composting

Start a compost bin with your kids to turn kitchen scraps into nutrient-rich soil for your garden. Get started by teaching them what items can be composted, such as fruit and vegetable peels, eggshells, and coffee grounds. Next, show them how composting helps reduce waste and enriches the soil. Not only will this activity help reduce your household’s environmental impact, but it will also provide valuable lessons in biology and ecology for your children.

5. Feed the birds

The Cape is home to many different species of birds. Invite them into your yard for a snack with a DIY bird feeder. There are lots of ways to do this, including making one from recycled materials like paper towel rolls, egg cartons, or pine cones. 

6. Go on a hike

Lace up your sneakers and hit the trails with your kids for an adventure in nature. Cape Cod offers many excellent kid-friendly hiking options. We recently went on a fun story walk hosted by the Chatham Conservation Foundation. While on your hike, encourage your children to observe the plants and animals they encounter. This provides a great opportunity to discuss the importance of preserving natural habitats. Combine your hike with a nature scavenger hunt for added fun.

7. Visit a local farm or farmers market

Visit a farm or farmers market to help your kids understand that food doesn’t magically appear at the grocery store. Taylor-Bray Farm in Yarmouth Port is a personal favorite for our family. This kid-friendly historic property is beautiful and educational. My kids know the chickens by name, and a visit always seems to promote discussions about where eggs really come from. 

8. Create recycled art

Get creative and repurpose household items into works of art with your kids. Start by raiding your recycling bin or collecting recyclable materials such as cardboard, paper tubes, and plastic bottles. Be sure to let your and your kids’ imaginations run wild! From making sculptures to creating collages, eco-friendly art offers endless possibilities to inspire your children to stretch their creative muscles while learning about the importance of recycling and reducing waste.

9. Host a clothing swap

Textiles comprise a large part of landfill waste. Studies show that it can take over 200 years for clothing and textiles to decompose. Empower your kids to help reduce textile waste by hosting a clothing swap with friends and neighbors. Encourage everyone to bring gently used clothing, shoes, and accessories they no longer wear, and let everyone trade items. Your clothing swap will help reduce the demand for new clothing production and promote a sense of community and sharing among your children.

10. Watch a nature documentary together

Wrap up your Earth Day celebrations by watching a nature documentary together as a family. Choose one that highlights the beauty and diversity of the natural world. This can make a great jumping-off point for discussing protecting endangered species and preserving fragile ecosystems with your children. We’re big fans of all the great options from National Geographic available on Disney+.

By incorporating these fun and meaningful activities into your Earth Day celebrations, you’ll create lasting memories with your children and instill in them a lifelong passion for environmental conservation. Together, you can positively impact the planet and inspire the next generation to take care of the earth. Happy Earth Day!

It’s a Family Trip, Not a Vacation (and How to Prepare)

Kids swimming in a poolDo you ever come home from “vacation” exhausted? In February, we took our family to Orlando. We stayed at a kid-friendly resort and took our oldest to Magic Kingdom for a day. For the most part, we had near-perfect weather (high 60s, low 70s with sunny days) and a convenient location. We were able to walk almost everywhere we needed to go, and we had family traveling with us who could help with the kids so that we could get an occasional break. But I learned that family trips are not the same thing as a vacation, and that it’s important to prepare accordingly.

Now that we’re back, I can safely say that conquering my first week-long vacation with our young family is something I’m happy to have experienced, but also happy to have behind me. There are no regrets on my part and I’m so glad we went (the kids had a blast!). However, I now know several things I would do differently next time, and you might also be able to learn from them for your future family trips.

Now that I’ve had the experience, next time, we’ll aim to prepare for our family trip by:

Going for a shorter amount of time

Being away for eight days was far too long for me. I think four to five days might be a sweet spot. Since having our twins, we’ve gone away for three days a couple of times. So eight days was a giant leap for us. Four to five days feels like just the right amount of time, not too short and not too long.

Planning something to do every day—for everyone

As I mentioned, we had one day planned for Disney. We’d planned to spend the rest of the time at different pools at the resort with my husband’s family. It ended up being a little harder with my twins since we didn’t want to keep them out in the sun for too long, so we ended up splitting up a lot. My husband and I joke that I have a hard time sitting still and relaxing, which is 100% true. I think planning something to do other than the pools would have helped everyone.

Approaching meals and snacks differently

We were lucky that our hotel room had a full kitchen, but my husband and I also felt like we didn’t get a break from making food and cleaning up after our three little ones. Next time, I would meal plan and meal-prep when we first get there (I did a little before we left, but not enough for the week), and then plan specific days to get takeout. My husband and I have also discussed looking for hotel options that includes some or all meals, as well as more activities geared towards little kids.

Looking back, the time we got to spend together as a family was invaluable. Watching our three kids smile and play is such a gift that we get to experience. Now that we’re planning to do things a little differently next time, I’m already looking forward to planning our next family trip.

In search of more travel tips? Check out Flying with Two Toddlers: A Success Story. You can also read Traveling With Toddlers :: Can We Talk About the Good Stuff Too? for another take!

Where to See Herring Runs on Cape Cod

Stony Brook Herring Run on Cape Cod photo by Lissy Perna, herring runs on cape cod
Stony Brook Herring Run on Cape Cod

Herring runs are filling to the gills with fish, which means it’s o-FISH-ally springtime on Cape Cod! Every spring, a miraculous and historical migration takes place. Thousands of herring swim from the ocean waters surrounding Cape Cod through tidal creeks to freshwater ponds to spawn. Like clockwork, the silvery bodies of these herring jump and fight up the fish ladders in early May. This migration takes a few weeks, and it is a magical sight to see. After laying their eggs, the herring return to the ocean, weary from their long journey. These fish make this yearly journey up to eight times in their lifetime. Read on to find my top recommendations for locations to visit to see the herring runs on Cape Cod!

Stony Brook Herring Run & Gristmill, Brewster

This specific herring run is near and dear to my heart, as I spent many childhood days there. My father is also the Miller and Herring Warden at Stony Brook. Make sure to come back on Saturdays throughout the summer to see the gristmill in action grinding corn, and visit the museum, too!
Address: 830 Stony Brook Road, Brewster

Pilgrim Lake, Orleans

The herring run here is lovely to visit with small children, as the sandy bottom of the stream gives you a great view of the fish. Walk along the stream and watch the fish climb the ladder to Pilgrim Lake. Pro tip: wear boots, as it can get muddy along the stream.
Address: end of Herring Brook Road, Orleans

Herring Run Recreation Area, Bourne

This location is a great spot to view the herring migration on Cape Cod. Miles of trails along the canal, including an interpretive loop trail explaining the history of the Cape Cod Canal, are nearby.
Address: 810 Scenic Highway, Bourne

Herring River, Harwich

This location is a great spot to look for herring, and there is a short and sweet loop trail adjacent to the run. Watch for osprey perched in the trees above the run, looking for their next meal.
Address: off Depot Street in West Harwich

More herring runs on Cape Cod to explore

There are many herring runs across Cape Cod. Here is a list of other locations where you might see some herring making their annual migration.

Herring River, Wellfleet
Herring Pond, Eastham
Lover’s Lake, Chatham
Scargo Lake, Dennis
Long Pond, Yarmouth
Tom Mathews Pond, Yarmouth
Mill Creek and Upper Shawme Pond, Sandwich
Cedar Lake and Coonamessett River, Falmouth
Santuit Pond Fish Ladder, Mashpee

When is the best time to see the herring runs on Cape Cod?

The herring appear in the highest volumes in late April and early May. I share updates on my Instagram page, Get Outside Cape Cod, so be sure to check that out, too. I hope you and your family can witness this natural phenomenon this year!

For more information about the herring runs on Cape Cod

To read more about this natural phenomenon on Cape Cod, along with how to become a volunteer fish counter, please visit the Association to Preserve Cape Cod website. For other fun things to do on the Cape during the spring, check out this post!

Staying Safe on the Run

A runner's legs running on pavement, staying safe on the run

Running is a cheap and accessible form of exercise, but in recent times many women struggle with feeling safe on the run. In February, 22-year-old nursing student Laken Hope Riley was murdered when she was out running on her college campus. In September 2022, mom Eliza Fletcher was killed while running early in the morning before her kids woke up. Stories like this are all too common, and women are more hesitant than ever to go out for their morning run. As the weather gets warmer and we find ourselves lacing up to get some fresh air, here are some tips for staying safe on the run.

Tell Someone

Before you step out the door, make sure someone knows where you’re going and when to expect you back. You can share your location on your phone so they can see your  whereabouts. If you use a running app like Strava, you have the ability to share your location in real time. Your partner will also be able to see your pace and battery life.

Have Protective Gear Ready

If you’re headed out the door in the early morning hours or later at night when it’s still dark out, make sure you can see and be seen. Wear a light-up vest and a head lamp (especially if you’re running on trails or uneven ground). I also splurged on open-ear headphones like these Shokz ones so that you can hear the environment around you. If you don’t have access to these, run with only one ear bud in or without music so you can stay aware. I also carry runner’s pepper gel and a personal alarm. This alarm is loud and all you have to do is pull on the bottom and anyone around you will be alerted. I recommend stopping by a running store like Marathon Sports in Yarmouth. They have a great selection of products to keep you safe on the run.

Consider Varying Your Routes

This one can be really hard. As moms and runners, we’re creatures of habit and love a routine. However, changing up where you run and at what time of day is a great way to make sure you don’t become an easy target. Sometimes it’s as easy as running your usual route in the opposite direction or on the other side of the road. When you can, stay on main roads and in well-lit areas. If you’re heading out for a longer run, check out the Cape Cod Rail Trail. It’s a paved bike trail, which is great for a smooth run without worrying about cars. It’s also very populated in the spring and summer months.

Alternatives To Running Alone

I get it. You run because it’s the one time of day you actually CAN be alone. The solitude is the biggest part of its charm. However, think of some alternatives here and there to minimize how often you’re running alone. Can you run later in the morning with your kiddo in a jogging stroller? Are you open to using a treadmill at the gym and taking advantage of their childcare? What about running with people? Marathon Sports has a running group every Thursday at 6:00pm. If that time doesn’t work for you, make your own! Hop on the Cape Cod Moms Facebook group and see if there’s anyone else in your area looking for a running buddy.

Always remember, you’ve got this, you’re doing great, and you have great kids with a great mom who cares about keeping herself safe.

Navigating Severe Food Allergies in Kids

doctor using a stethoscope to examine a child holding a teddy bear, navigating severe food allergies in kids

Parenting is full of curveballs. Just when you think you’re hitting your stride there is a new obstacle. One of my biggest challenges has been navigating our son’s severe food allergies. When he was just eighteen months old, I entered the world of scratch tests, EpiPens, and lengthy grocery store visits. I experienced intense anxiety over what to feed my child and how to keep him safe. Almost five years later, I’m sharing tips for anyone new to or struggling with navigating severe food allergies in kids.

Form a partnership with your child’s pediatrician

A strong relationship with your child’s primary care doctor is critical when there is an ongoing medical condition. You will rely heavily on them for advice, reassurance, and referrals to specialists. Speak up and ask for what you need. For our family it was important to have access to a team of pediatric allergists. Because of our older son’s allergies, it was also a high priority that our younger child have a scratch test prior to introducing common allergen foods. Your pediatrician can help you prepare for specialist visits, which can be stressful and emotional. After conversing with my pediatrician, I keep a running list of questions in a note on my phone so I can remember everything during our annual allergy visits.

Seek emotional support

It’s hard to put into words the intense anxiety that comes with seeing your child experience anaphylaxis. It can be challenging to find a balance between getting your child to internalize safety restrictions but also feel comfortable trying new foods and eating outside your home. We try to allow our son and ourselves to feel frustrated and grieve the allergy while also remaining positive. Our family recently started working with a psychologist who specializes in immunology. She has helped us manage both our son’s anxiety as well as our parental anxiety.

Create an allergy bag

Put all your allergy necessities in a central bag that is easy to transport and have with your child at all times. We use a mini backpack similar to this. In our bag we carry Zyrtec, Benadryl, 2 EpiPens in this case, wipes, a copy of our son’s insurance card, and doctors’ phone numbers. We also include allergy-friendly snacks and candy to have on hand.

Get organized

Being an allergy parent requires more preparation. When I was starting out, I kept a categorized list of allergy-safe foods for breakfast, lunch, dinner, dessert, and snacks. This helped me focus on the foods that were options and dwell less on the ones that were restricted. I also developed a working list of special-occasion recipes by holiday. This helps me plan ahead for the ingredients to keep on hand as I approach the different times of year.

Attending kids birthdays can be tricky from a food perspective. I usually reach out when I RSVP, letting the family know about my son’s allergy and seeing what’s on the menu. This way I can bring something similar without putting any stress on the host. We keep our freezer stocked with vegan cupcakes so that when celebrations come up we are dessert ready.

Utilize blogs and social media resources

I regularly use recipes from the blogs Allergy Awesomeness and Make it Dairy Free. I also belong to several Facebook groups: Parents of Children with Multiple Food Allergies, Moms of Kids with Milk Allergies, Allergy Moms Who Travel, and Disney Food Allergy Group. These groups are clutch when you need ideas for a recipe. Through these groups I also discovered the “switch witch.” For those of us who celebrate Halloween, the “switch witch” comes on Halloween night to take away any candy with allergens. In its place she leaves a small treat. These groups also help me find ideas for safe foods and restaurants when traveling. I direct message any restaurant I’m considering and ask them about their food preparation and how they avoid cross-contamination.

Stock up on allergy-safe foods

You will be packing a lot of your own food so it is helpful to have things on hand. We have great luck finding a range of dairy- and egg-free food at Trader Joe’s. Their vegan desserts such as these mini cones, bon bons, and sunbutter cups are favorites in our house. We also love their vegan pesto, french onion dip, parmesan, mozzarella, and Boursin cheeses. Some of our other go to brands include: So Delicious, Kite Hill, Yum Earth Candy, No Whey! Foods, Partake, Made Good, Enjoy Life, Hippeas, Abe’s Muffins, Daiya, and Applegate Farms. If food insecurity is impacting your access to allergy-safe foods, these resources may be helpful.

While allergy life can be complicated, you will find your new norm. Your child can still enjoy eating delicious food. It just takes work, patience, and creativity. You’ve got this!